Yes, women like Mr. Big Strong protector types, that’s just biology though. We are naturally drawn to men who can protect us and our children through pregnancy and beyond. But, that is just how you get our attention during the first meeting. There are so many little things men do, and can do that make you so much more attractive to the opposite sex, (as well as the same and in between). Know, of course everyone has their own preferences but here’s some basics, (and some of my favorite things) men can do, wear, and say that make a man so much more attractive than any random person she’ll see on the street.

• Number 1: Grooming regularly. I am personally, and always will be a HUGE fan of facial hair, but you have to maintain it. Shaving, trimming, brushing out, and making sure your facial hair is in condition tells her you take care of yourself, and therefore, would take care of her.
• Number 2: Fitting clothes. Baggy and ill fitting clothes are just not as attractive. You don’t need to be in a fitted suit every day but wearing shirts and pants that are huge on you makes her wonder what you’re hiding underneath. Be proud of whatever you have, she’ll notice and like you more for it/
• Number 3: Clean and trimmed nails. Hands and feet. Making sure your nails are clean shows her you’re not a slob. And keeping them trimmed and clean makes her want you to touch her not want to push you away.
• Number 4: Do the dishes. Trust me. That effort that means she can sit on the couch and watch her favorite TV show for 20 min longer means so much. Bonus points if you cook! It’s these little things that let her know you care about her, and want to be her partner not someone for her to take care of.
• Number 5: Make/ Grab her favorite morning drink. Little known fact, women need more sleep than men do (check out this article from the National Sleep Foundation). Getting up first and bringing her her morning beverage let’s her know you think of her first in the morning. Double points if your girl is not a morning person.
• Number 6: Get Sappy Sometimes. You have to tell her how you feel, she can’t read your mind. Getting emotional and telling her that you think about her all day everyday will show her how you truly feel. If you see a future with her, tell her, get her favorite takeout, grab flowers on the way home. these little things can go a long way. And she’ll know you love her.
• Number 7: If you have kids of your own or kids in your family, play with them. Women love men who are good with children, so put in the effort, get on the floor, make up a game, color, whatever it takes, you have to show her you’d be a good father and a good life partner.

This is not a one size fits all love potion, but it will help. In short; take care of yourself, take care of her, tell her you care, and let yourself be a bit childish with kids.

From NYC with Love, Nicole

Many men have said that they believe women like to be catcalled, that it is a compliment and women should take them as such. Of course, women do not agree. Catcalling, defined by Dictionary.com as, "make a whistle, shout, or comment of a sexual nature to a woman passing by." is not a compliment. So, how do we as random men compliment strangers as they walk by without engaging in a real conversation or saying hello you ask. How could we shout about how sexy a woman is as the women keeps her head down, both headphones in, and walking by as fast as possible. Well, in short, don't. Women would rather go their entire day, week, year, life without your compliment. Women do not like being catcalled, they especially do not like being catcalled when they are alone on a sidewalk, subway stop, or in a train car. It is scary for someone that is typically taller, bigger, and stronger than you to yell sexually aggressive statements at you, this is even worse when the women is physically trapped in a space. So, instead of catcalling, I would like to offer you some rules and guidelines for complimenting that women may actually like, things that even could start a conversation instead of making us feel unsafe and feeling the need to escape from you as fast as possible. 

So, what do you do as a man if you just want to pay a compliment to a women, and actually brighten her day some;

• Number 1: If you are paying a compliment, do not make it sexual in nature, this is unwanted and aggressive and never taken as a compliment.
• Number 2: If the person you are complimenting is trapped in the space they’re in with you with no way to get out, don’t compliment them, this feeling of being trapped will override anything you say, no matter how nice.
• Number 3: Compliment them on something they can change, not about their body, but about clothes, hair color, shoes, not how large their butt is or how much you like how their body looks, this comes off sexually aggressive and makes people uncomfortable.
• Number 4: Saying that someone is beautiful is fine, but once you say it you need to give that person space, try approaching, “I just wanted to say you are very beautiful” then walking away about 5 to 10 feet. You might actually get a thank you and a smile. It’s not that compliments are not appreciated we just want to know you will not harm us for rejecting you, so don’t make it about you wanting us, but rather just about telling a stranger they look nice today, if they want to talk to you after they will.

And, that’s the basics on the difference between catcalling and complimenting.

From NYC with Love, Nicole